Attachment Styles + Neurodivergence: When Attachment Differences Aren’t the Only Challenge

If you’ve been reading about attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant—you might see some patterns show up in your relationship, but it probably doesn’t feel like the whole story.

Common insights might include:

• “You’re avoidant because you shut down.”

• “You’re anxious because you need too much reassurance.”

But if you or your partner are neurodivergent—such as having Autism Spectrum Disorder or ADHD—those labels might not be telling the full story.